I am a woman who likes porn. I like my porn like I like my sex: rough, consensual, a little kinky, diverse. I like my hair pulled, and I like to be choked, but not enough to really cut off my airflow, and I like to see these things in porn. I like it when it seems the woman is enjoying herself, and I like it when it seems that the man is concerned with her pleasure, even if he’s engaging in dominant play. I also like the people in the porn I view to look like people I might hang out with, like people I might sleep with myself.
We need more porn stars like James Deen. He isn’t a meathead bro-dude. He isn’t a middle-aged, doughy, unattractive plumber-guy. And he isn’t a floating disembodied penis. Apparently POV porn is really fun for people who have a penis because they get to pretend that the penis they see is their own and that they are penetrating the person on the screen, but I don’t have a penis, and seeing male bodies that I find attractive engaged in sexual activities is a turn on for me.
I love watching James Deen fuck. He does it with such intention and consideration. He takes it seriously and has fun. James Deen does a lot of scenes where you can see all of his body. I almost feel like I’m part of the action — or at least, I could fantasize about being the woman he’s having sex with. I’ve never felt this way about men in porn before. I can name you plenty of women whose on-camera sex work I’m a fan of, but James Deen is the only man.
What gives, porn industry?? I mean, I guess I know what gives — James Deen is hugely appealing to women and the porn industry is geared towards men. Any “porn for women” I’ve come across is either lady-boner-killingly softcore or an insulting sexist joke. News flash: there are lots and lots of women who want actual porn! We just want to be able to see what’s happening, and we want it to feature a dude who we could see ourselves sleeping with. Cast more men like James Deen! There’s money to be made!