I have been seeing this guy for about three weeks. We get along great; he makes me laugh and we really connect in the bedroom. In other words, we have amazing sex. I had planned to stay at his place for the night. When it came time to canoodling, it was great, but he wouldn’t go down on me. I love getting head. And I didn’t get head. So obviously I said something.
“Why didn’t you give me head?”
I’m pretty blunt.
He got quiet. After some time, he said, “I don’t really know how to put this…”
Oh god, I thought.
“I don’t like your patch,” he said.
What. The. Fuck.
I looked at him, too angry and offended to really say anything. He went on to say that he wasn’t trying to be offensive, but he really didn’t like that I had so much hair on my vagina. I responded with “It’s my body and I will do what I want with it. I love my hair and you will respect that.”
He said he didn’t like putting his face into hair. He then had the balls to ask me to shave my vagina. HE ASKED ME TO SHAVE MY VAGINA.
At this point I was already putting my bra back on. He tried to compromise and tell me that we could shave our sex organs together. That made it worse. I was out in the next 20 seconds. Bye.
Why is this such an issue? Why does my vagina get no lovin’ because of her fluff? Why am I denied sexual pleasure because I do what I want with my body? WHY DOES MY PUSSY HAVE TO LOOK LIKE AN 8-YEAR OLD’S VAGINA IN ORDER FOR IT TO BE LICKED?
I will not change for anybody. This is my body, my temple, and no one will EVER tell me what to do with it.